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Tie that binds


The other day I received an email from my younger sister. The message said that my dear friend from college wanted to reconnect. She had lost touch with me when I moved to another part of the planet. But, the friend had searched high and low until she had found my sister’s email address and sent the query to her, which she sent to me. I have not seen or spoken to this friend since 1973! My hands became sweaty and I fired off an email to friend “M”, and I held my breath.

In a matter of minutes there was a pling which indicated: “You’ve Got Mail.” Indeed, “M” had written a very long and heart grabbing letter to me. She explained how she found me via my sister and brought me up to date with her life. This made me very happy. I could not believe she had found me. I do not have a Facebook account. I searched my files and found a decent picture of myself and sent it to “M”. She replied that she could have spotted me and the long hair in any airport in the world! That comment made me smile. As I wrote a reply, I thought of how thankful I was to have known this girl all those years ago. She was the real deal. You know what I mean? No pretense, no lofty attitude, just plain honesty all the way around. We were like sisters.

To make a long story short, we have reconnected. Pictures have been exchanged, details about the past 40 years have been read and reread. Friendship is the tie that binds the two of us together. Funny thing about this whole sequence of events. I had been thinking of “M” for years, and then just a couple of weeks ago she made contact. We took up where we left off as if 40 years had not taken place! Well, I am thankful for this intervention into my life at this stage. I am no longer 19, but I feel like I am, so that is what matters.

Before last week, I had no clue that I had meant so much to “M”. Now that I know, I am glad that she found me. Her cheerful words have changed me. Her smile brings back so many fine memories. My advice to anyone who has a lost friend out there somewhere: Find them, write to them, and you may make someone smile. What goes around will come around.

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Image: Scrummy ribbons by Lainey Powell